"When are you ever afraid to be vulnerable?"The feeling of being misunderstood, and the giving of my all to a person. I'm afraid that, if I let myself become vulnerable to a person, then I will lose myself to them. I'm afraid that, as soon as things go bad and we depart ways then I will have no identity to come back to."Why are we so afraid of vulnerability?"Because we don't like to feel weak. We don't like the sense of losing control. Vulnerability opens us up to exposure; our flaws, our inconsistencies, our fears are put on display like museum artefacts, but the difference is that it is not the public who comes to see the exhibition, entitled to leave with a critique. The viewers of our vulnerability are those closest to us, because it is their critique that matters.
Interesting...I struggle with these things too. I watched a TED talk which talked about how vulnerability, in which the woman speaking said that vulnerability is not only the source of things we try to avoid (i.e. fear, loneliness, rejection) but also the source of the beautiful things, such as love, joy, connectedness. If we can't be vulnerable and be ourselves, we cannot believe that we ourselves are worthy of love and belonging, and we will not be able to truly connect with people and allow ourselves to experience that love and belonging. Do you think that we perhaps view vulnerability as a negative thing, when in fact it is a source of beauty and connectedness?
After reading what you've said, maybe our fear of being vulnerable isn't centered around the negative: the loneliness, the rejection, the disappointment. Maybe our fear of being vulnerable is rooted in the idea that we're scared of the beautiful things more: the love, joy, connectedness because we can't allow ourselves to accept that such things exist in the world, and are therefore real enough to experience. After this denial, then perhaps the negative effects of vulnerability kick in. It probably doesn't make sense ha...but yeh, I reckon we definitely view it as a negative thing; whole-heartedly. It's a shame really.
When are you ever afraid to be vulnerable?The answer to this is frightfully simplistic... always. I never what to feel vulnerable, and when I am in a vulnerable situation I try to remove myself from it (mentally at least). There is not a single life experience I can recall being comfortable with vulnerable, however in saying this being vulnerable can can open you up to someone, and often that is what is needed. While we may vehemently oppose vulnerability for fear of rejection or disappointment if we do not occasionally allow brief periods of vulnerability how can we ever let people into our lives.Why are we so afraid of vulnerability?Again I think the answer is simple - fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear that won't make the 'cut' or meet expectations - it is a fear of being ourselves stemming from a lack of self-confidence that ultimately leaves us avoiding vulnerability.
When are you ever afraid to be vulnerable?Never.Why are we so afraid of vulnerability?I'm not.
Aren't some people lucky...
Luck has nothing to do with it. I am blessed with the realization that everyone is just as broken and ugly as me. There is safety in numbers and im working in billions. i stand shoulder to shoulder with everyone who is hurting, scared and afraid. How can i be ashamed of being scared, when we are all scared.Its a beautiful thing, i invite you
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When are you ever afraid to be vulnerable?Around people. When I was in high school, I was always myself, putting in a good word for everyone and doing my best to be there for my friends and family and those in my church. Instead of making me happy, people seemed to pass me off as a fake and never really associated with me. Since high school, my heart has hardened immensely and I'm very scared to show that kind of open emotion again. With love and prayer, maybe it will be seen again but I remain forever scared making myself so vulnerable again. Why are we so afraid of vulnerability? It is predominantly out of fear. How can we ever show weakness. Weakness is the worst thing anyone can show because they'll get attacked: left, right and centre. It is the thought that this state will leave one worse off than when it began. We feel that being exploited happens because of vulnerability and to avoid it happening again, closing up is the best way out of it.
An interesting verse from the Bible to ponder is 2 Corinthians 12:9-11...Paul is talking to the church in Corinth about Christ dying for our sins, and how this frees us from the bonds of sin and death. He says "And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness." Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong."